9 hours ago
Tuesday, September 06, 2016
Changing Your Name: a Rant
Here's why I think women should not take their husband's name upon getting married -- or, well, you know, why NO ONE should change his or her name upon marrying ANYONE, though let's be honest, it's women who change their names, 98% of the time.
Partly, yes, because patriarchal bullshit.
But mostly? Because when you change your name, woman, I don't know who you are anymore. I see your name on the roll? Or I read it on a list? Who TF is that? I wonder.
And unless I was at your wedding or part of your courtship process, how am I supposed to know?
And it's not like women marry at 22 and that's it. Women marry at 22 or 25, and then they marry again at 35, and then they marry again at 50, and you know, it is hard enough for me to learn one name and attach it to one face and one set of biographical details. If you're going to keep changing your name, I'm sorry, I surrender.
Just stick to the name you came up with, how's that?
Make it simpler for all of us.
(I am about 65% serious here.)