Monday, February 28, 2005

Why Have'em if You Won't Raise'em?

Now this is funny:

"I don't know how you can put that baby in day care. Why did you even have a child if you weren't going to raise her yourself?"

"We needed someone who could fetch the TV remote when we were too drunk to get off the couch and find it."

From over at Chez Miscarriage, things she has learned from reading Mother Drive-bys, appalling things people feel free to say to parents these days.

I know when the kid was tiny I couldn’t take her out in public without shoes out (which I did all the time, because, you know? It was summer?) without every woman in miles descending on me to howl, “Get some shoes on that baby!”

And everyone else was always telling us when we should wean her and what we should feed her and how if we didn’t smack her she’d grow up evi-i-il…


And of course, putting them in daycare/pre-school (or, in the case of our fellow English professor, the one whose kid didn’t go to daycare/preschool, not sending him to preschool/daycare) will warp the kids for life…

Not to mention all the other ways parents can destroy their children, which everyone is more than delighted to tell us about, because, you know, parenting doesn’t come with enough guilt these days.

Chez M tells them all what’s what.


zelda1 said...

Okay, while I agree with most things that Chez says, I have to disagree on the mitten thing. It's true, bacteria and viruses cause infections; however, lowerering the body temperature, which by the way 98.6 orally 99.6 rectally is the heat the body needs to stop the growth of bacteria/viruses, (the body temp is a natural defense), so by lowerering it by not keeping an infants hands warm, or keeping their feet or head warm, will lower their temperature, thereby increasing the chances that the bacteria/virus will set up housekeeping in the child's respiratory system. So, by all means, put the mittens, hats, and shoes on the tykes.
As far as the other stuff, I'm down with what she says.

jon said...

After we paid for our kids child summer camp we found it tough to recover! I totally agree with you!

Diana said...

The term "parenting" is a derivative of the word "parent" taken as a verb. When people say "to parent" a child it means "to be a parent," or "to fulfill parental duties." Since everyone who has a child has to parent he or she has their own view on what their parental duties are. Generally, the majority of parents admit that those duties are to provide for the basic needs of a child - the child's need for security and development. This implies security and development of a child's body, mind and psyche. In other words, it is physical, intellectual, and emotional security and development. sportsbook, Parenting is usually done in a child's family by the mother and/or father (i.e., the biological parents). When parents are unable or unwilling to provide this care, it is usually undertaken by close relatives, such as older siblings, aunts and uncles, or grandparents. In other cases, children may be cared for by adoptive parents, foster parents, godparents, or in institutions (such as group homes or orphanages). There are also circumstances, such as on a kibbutz, where parenting is an occupation even when biological parents exist. Parens patriae refers to the public policy power of the state to usurp the rights of the natural parent, legal guardian or informal caregiver, and to act as the parent of any child or individual who is in need of protection (i.e. if the child's caregiver is exceedingly violent or dangerous).