tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post110563217641826992..comments2024-03-24T09:36:51.494-04:00Comments on delagar: Beat Your Children Welldelagarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18197857250240640822noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-33721026229990918732013-06-23T15:50:45.524-04:002013-06-23T15:50:45.524-04:00To everyone who has commented here: This is one of...To everyone who has commented here: This is one of the most frequently accessed of all my posts; and what amazes me (frankly) is all the people who are defending beating children.<br /><br />I've raised a child who is now fifteen. We've never hit her, and we're never going to hit her. She's smart, tough, outspoken, and respectful. Does she argue with us? Yes, she does: when she thinks she's right. Do I have a problem with that? No, I don't. You know why? Because I am not raising her to be a little lamb. I'm raising her to be a tough, strong, citizen of the world.<br /><br />You beat your kids into submission, you make them so scared and terrified that they will do whatever you say, even when they think you're wrong, what sort of adult do you think you'll have when that child grows up?<br /><br />That's my first point.<br /><br />My second point is more basic. What sort of human beings *are* you, to defend the abuse of children this way?<br /><br />And don't tell me that hitting children is not abuse, because it is.<br /><br />Would you hit another adult this way? And if you did hit another adult the way you're hitting that child, what would we call that? (Let me tell you what we would call it: assault. And it would be a crime.)<br /><br />If it's a crime to do it to an adult, how on earth can you justify doing it to a child?<br /><br />That's two.<br /><br />Here's three: This child is dependent on you for everything. This child will believe everything you tell him or her. When you tell this child you are beating it because you love it -- because it's good for the child to be beaten -- the child will *believe* that, because you are its parent, and if the child doesn't love you, it knows it is doomed.<br /><br />(Hence, all the children who are commenting on here about how they deserved their beatings, and how their beatings were good for them. <-- Which I have to say are truly the saddest comments of the lot.)<br /><br />That is what you are doing by beating your children. You are telling them that they deserve to be beaten. That people who love them will beat them. That if they want to know what love is, they should look for someone who will hurt them, beat them, punish them, do them harm.<br /><br />Is that what you want to tell your child? Is that what you want your child to look for, in the future, in their spouse?<br /><br />I know I don't.delagarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18197857250240640822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-8786902951976004532012-01-06T08:31:45.786-05:002012-01-06T08:31:45.786-05:00The thoughts in the nights of tears...
The feeli...The thoughts in the nights of tears... <br /><br />The feelings no child should go through - growing up with an unappeasable rageoholic.<br /><br />What was the word spoken, gesture performed by someone who couldn't fight back, or was too small to really harm you that set you off?<br /><br />Was what was said, or done - either intentionally or unintentionally by a small child really worth showing how much rage was in your heart and soul? <br /><br />Was it the perfection you demanded but couldn't explain, or obtain yourself worth it?<br /><br />Was it that you didn't want the world to see you for what you really were? <br /><br />You couldn't take the time to learn a single name of any of the superheroes or figures your child played with? Instead - scolded them for not being good enough in school, when you yourself barely passed every grade?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-14425947220897796992011-11-16T12:04:06.840-05:002011-11-16T12:04:06.840-05:00What I believe you are teaching your child through...What I believe you are teaching your child through corporal punishment is such a hypocritical lesson. <br /><br />What you are teaching them is ultimately to be afraid, not be good. In a court of law - which EVERYONE is part of - you try to determine whether or not the accused has done something against the laws of society, and ultimately remove them from injuring themselves and other people if that need be.<br /><br />I find it completely hypocritical to hit or beat YOUR child over words or ideas, then expect them not to do the same. You're preventing them from truly experiencing the joys of life and pronouncing yourself as the ultimate judge in an unfair trial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-44974505724297865102011-10-24T13:19:38.627-04:002011-10-24T13:19:38.627-04:00I remember having to listen to being yelled at for...I remember having to listen to being yelled at for over and hour from my adopted father being told he wouldn't like me if I wasn't his "son". He kept on arguing that all I had to do was apologize and everyone would "forget it" for doing something, ultimately that he really believed I did. I remember the moment in my head as I finally just went out and said "I'm sorry". From that moment on until the end of his life, and many years afterward, I had such a warped and sadistic sense of what forgiveness is. I said "sorry" or anything he wanted to hear just to avoid being beaten. I don't believe for MANY years I had ever meant an apology because I used that word to avoid being hit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-29429017494046037022011-10-18T13:28:20.717-04:002011-10-18T13:28:20.717-04:00I hope no child ever has to wake up thinking / bel...I hope no child ever has to wake up thinking / believing that they can never come to their parents with a legitimate problem in their life. Sometimes I woke up knowing that if I they got involved in something - it would be turned into my fault, regardless of what happened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-33657561349049532132011-09-16T11:40:13.985-04:002011-09-16T11:40:13.985-04:00What hitting your children teaches them is that th...What hitting your children teaches them is that they really can't come to you when they truly have an issue in their life (even IF YOU think it's small).<br /><br />I was raised catholic, and even though I was never inappropriately touched during all of the sex scandals - I truly believe even if I was groped on the altar - I couldn't count on my adopted parents to do ANYTHING except say it was my fault for putting myself in that position.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-49503568352336293662011-09-07T09:28:56.408-04:002011-09-07T09:28:56.408-04:00Being around the jackass made me really believe I ...Being around the jackass made me really believe I was more of a piece of property to him than I was anything else. It was always that "his" way was better, and if you wanted to live under "his" house - he was the benevolent monarch.<br /><br />I'll never forget when he told me he wouldn't even like me if I wasn't his "son". He would rather believe someone else's lie than what I was trying to tell him truthfully. Thankfully - I always had the gift of knowing I was adopted, and I'll do him one better - in a lot of ways, I'd rather be nothing to him so he could have a fairer chance with fate, karma or God - take your pick.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-75754143011645690082011-09-01T09:55:48.326-04:002011-09-01T09:55:48.326-04:00I wonder sometimes if that man thought he was &quo...I wonder sometimes if that man thought he was "more of a man" because he could hit. <br /><br />He just thought that beating values into someone smaller than him would show the world how great his values were.<br /><br />A day I came to school with black and blue on my arm - a kid asked me "what happened to your arm" - I said "my dad hit me". They replied "for what". I said "no reason, I think he just likes to hit".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-30513712558796080722011-09-01T09:36:42.658-04:002011-09-01T09:36:42.658-04:00Somedays you wake up in the morning thinking that ...Somedays you wake up in the morning thinking that you've made the world worse by being in it and that everything you touch has now been devalued because you had your hand in it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-25559534647331321232011-08-31T07:58:58.491-04:002011-08-31T07:58:58.491-04:00I remember as a kid, having a dream of being on a ...I remember as a kid, having a dream of being on a children's TV show where they ask you what your Daddy does for a living. A BIG portion of me wanted to blurt out "HE HITS. HE HITS REALLY GOOD".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-64738360725256671042011-08-18T13:56:33.022-04:002011-08-18T13:56:33.022-04:00The things I learned from living through it. I gre...The things I learned from living through it. I grew up with an adopted father who I believed just hit me for stuff I never even did. I was told that it was in my best interests, and even that his father was very hard on him in his "best" interests. His last Christmas alive - he threw a drink at me because I wanted him to go to a hospital because his condition worsened quickly enough that it was beyond my basic skills to heal. I was told that he was in pain due to his illness, and didn't "know" what he was doing. I found ANYTHING, regardless of what money, priviliges given, or promises were told hard or totally impossible to believe. It was always "you shouldn't speak THAT way about him", or "you'll give someone the wrong impression of that man".<br /><br />I learned through life, and laughter, and watching another man who has been in pain longer than my adopted father has even been alive NEVER throw a drink at me, or choke, or punch me in the face over words.<br /><br />Another man, whom I've known since I was six months old, even though he was of no actual relation, told me of stories of abuse, and I don't know because I wasn't alive when it happened - I believe his heart changed. Every day, I live my life because he NEVER did hit or abuse me. If I had the chance to go back to the time he lived, and did as a sign of his times, tell him that I cherished the time I had with him when his heart changed - even though I was too young to understand or appreciate it. I believe he could have found the words to let his kids know he was unhappy with what they were doing, because I saw his changed heart when I knew him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-78706180753179701042011-07-13T07:26:06.357-04:002011-07-13T07:26:06.357-04:00What really amazes me is that some adults really b...What really amazes me is that some adults really believe that hitting solves problems. Believe it or not, my adopted mom actually broke her hand trying to hit me because I moved at the last second. <br /><br />It teaches that it's perfectly acceptable to bully things smaller than you, and belittle other sentient beings who can't fight back. <br /><br />I got hit in the crotch with a dogs leash because I didn't take the dog for a walk when I was "told" to. Honestly, later in life, I regret I wasn't a better pet owner to that wonderful dog. I watched my adopted father beat that dog when it did it had accidents. It's what I was taught from him, and I had a true moment in the clear to understand how horrible hitting and beating really is. <br /><br />The only thing I don't regret is wishing I didn't have a chance to beat him with a dog's leash for teaching that type of behavior. But, that wouldn't have taught the ignorant anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-80012397515541558812011-03-09T11:52:28.812-05:002011-03-09T11:52:28.812-05:00damn.. if u dnt give ur kids a good whack once in ...damn.. if u dnt give ur kids a good whack once in a while, theyre gonna end up SPOILT BRATS.. trust me they are gonna use the fact that u dnt do anthin against u...aint always worth bein a softy.. when they become teens you will be arfaid to hit them (cos now they know all about it)an they will be rebellious... my mom hit me and thats the reason im not like the other kids around. i dont drink, smoke or do drugs. i respect everyone and speak the whole truth. (im 15 years old)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-3280055980801034182010-08-26T15:45:10.192-04:002010-08-26T15:45:10.192-04:00Hell yes children should be slapped and spanked. ...Hell yes children should be slapped and spanked. Hell no children shouldn't be beaten into a bloody pulp or knocked out. That being said they NEED to have a healthy fear of parents, teachers, and authority figures. You're curious about the effects of spanking and slapping as discipline? Look at the literacy rates decline since capital punishment was removed from the school systems. Look at the crime levels in schools now vs. when the teacher could set you up in front of the class and paddle you. <br /><br />Children should NOT be abused. I don't think anyone would argue that. But there is a HUGE difference between discipline and abuse. <br /><br />Look, at the end of the day if your child grows up mouthy, they will eventually run into someone who WILL beat them. Wouldn't you rather it be you than somebody that actually intends permanent physical harm?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-80091229087972291202010-07-04T13:05:20.240-04:002010-07-04T13:05:20.240-04:00Beat your kids you faggots. I was raised in china,...Beat your kids you faggots. I was raised in china, and you know what, everyone, all 1.4 billion people beat their kids, and thats why china is rising to surpass you lowly fat americans. Now there are so many homosexuals, sex at 16, and gangs out there all because of you! Beat them to make american better. Also, you sould like we are assulting them, but no, they are our kids and we love them, so we make them stay on the right track. Making your kid go to their room and be grounded? please. when your little motherfucker is alone, they party and call a striper to have a damn sex party. BEAT YOUR KIDS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-39576548589172033212010-01-26T17:57:56.887-05:002010-01-26T17:57:56.887-05:00Look People, I Was Never Hit As A Child. I'm N...Look People, I Was Never Hit As A Child. I'm Now 17, And I Know Right From Wrong. I Don't Talk Cross To My Elders, Never Did. The Reason Your Kids Fuck Up, IS BECAUSE OF YOU! If You Hit Your Children, It Means You Have Problems, It Also Means Your A Pussy Who Has To Take It Out On Your Children Because You Fucked Your Life Up.John Wattsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-38499038256779682892009-01-22T20:34:00.000-05:002009-01-22T20:34:00.000-05:00I'm not a ghetto nasty black or a trailer tras...I'm not a ghetto nasty black or a trailer trash white; I mixed (both black & white) and I spank my kids as needed- so whomever left the comment that the aforementioned (steryotypes) are the only people that hit their kids is DEAD WRONG! Hey, don't you own me all the money in the world now?!?! LOL! My husband is a real estate attorney with his own practice, I am an educated stay-at-home Mom who is very active in my childrens lives/activities... nothing ghetto or trashy about us. My children however are well behaved, respectful, good students and all around good people... they don't fear me or my husband, but they respect us and all of the people around them. You don't have to beat the hell out of your kids that can really mess them up; giving them no discipline and letting them get away with murder can make them even worse. Also, if you're an adult and you're still scared of your parents, walking around holding anger towards them because they did what they thought was right as a parent, you're just f**ked in the head and need counseling! Not to mention you sound racist and ignorantAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-15177237094946762942008-11-12T17:03:00.000-05:002008-11-12T17:03:00.000-05:00I got the tail end of the beatings when I was grow...I got the tail end of the beatings when I was growing up, but I still got some heat from dear old Dad's hand/ arm. My father was a deadeye with small objects and he could hit you in the forehead two rooms away. I grew up to be a well adjusted citizen with no problems whatsoever. Maybe it was because my father is funny as hell. He would beat your ass, then read you a bedtime story that would give you a cramp in your stomach. My emotional scars came from my babysitter, a heroin addict named Michelle Weidelle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-31835919814166969632008-09-20T19:15:00.000-04:002008-09-20T19:15:00.000-04:00i bet all the money in the world that the people w...i bet all the money in the world that the people who are saying that you should beat your kids are either nasty ghetto blacks or those disgusting trailer trash whites. Hitting your kids is child abuse. One comment said that if you don't beat your kids they won't be afraid of you. Is that all you want in your life? You want your children to fear you? As a person who was hit by her parents, I have no problem saying that I hate my parents, and i'm scared of them. That's all you'll ever acheive. Your kids will hate you and when it comes time for you to retire and you want to live some place nice, your kids will turn their backs and you'll be left out in the cold. Oh yeah i forgot to mention the mental problems that beating me has caused. When someone raises their hand around me I flinch. When someone yells at me I want to cry. It's not funny, and it's not cute. If you are selfish enough to have children then beat the crap out of them whenever they do something that embarasses you then you shouldn't be a parent, point blank!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-89131950582043945722008-09-17T10:36:00.000-04:002008-09-17T10:36:00.000-04:00hell yes i spank my kids. it gets their attention....hell yes i spank my kids. it gets their attention. im not saying to dropkick them but when they need it bust their ass. having said that i rarely have to spank my kids, less than 10 times a year, because they know that im not playing. they dont have to fear you but they do have to respect you and everyone else for that matter. if they have no disipline how will they ever learn right from wrong. ive got to hand it to my dad when i needed it he busted my ass and you know what i thought maybe i shouldnt do that anymore. spare the rod and spoil the child or visit them in jail anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-42884252786931999612008-08-04T17:02:00.000-04:002008-08-04T17:02:00.000-04:00Also. Statistics show that children who are beaten...Also. Statistics show that children who are beaten are more likely to A) Turn to crime and B) Break down mentally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-62240825803009561922008-08-04T16:55:00.000-04:002008-08-04T16:55:00.000-04:00Are you people blind? Hitting ANYBODY for ANYTHING...Are you people blind? Hitting ANYBODY for ANYTHING is WRONG. I was very seriously abused as a child (Admittedly by a brother but that's because my parents were alcoholics. Go figure.) and I think anyone who corporally punishes there child should be sent to prison. No question. It's just wrong.<BR/><BR/>Calvin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-59243508628889536702008-07-14T05:51:00.000-04:002008-07-14T05:51:00.000-04:00You KNOW when you live next door to "parents" that...You KNOW when you live next door to "parents" that don't discipline their kids properly.<BR/><BR/>It's a nightmare. The kids get away with everything. They are the future criminals of tomorrow.<BR/><BR/>Reinforce your point when your kids don't mind you. You'll make it easier on their teachers and their neighbors.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-37352449810849896232008-06-25T23:18:00.000-04:002008-06-25T23:18:00.000-04:00DON'T BEAT YOUR KIDS?!? What are you talking about...DON'T BEAT YOUR KIDS?!? What are you talking about? Parents should regularly beat their children. It teaches them something that prescription drugs can't: discipline. I live in a suburban neighborhood, and I've seen parents that have children grow up to be vandals and nuisances, and guess what? They were never beaten. I know what you're asking: how do I know this? I know because get this: I'm 16. My parents actually beat me and properly disciplined me during my childhood, and look at me today: flawless. I seem to be the only person my age that doesn't go to stupid parties and drink and do drugs and other such pointless things, and I actually do well in school. This is coming from someone who hasn't even entered college yet: BEAT YOUR DAMN KID! If you need anymore reason why people need to beat their children, than visit maddox.xmission.com and read his article about beat your kids. Hell, it may be good advice for some of these people on here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8340684.post-65558237055355223142008-06-20T14:05:00.000-04:002008-06-20T14:05:00.000-04:00You idiots. You act as though we're ASSAULTING the...You idiots. <BR/>You act as though we're ASSAULTING the children. Most decent parents have the courtesy to get up and spank their children for something they've done wrong.<BR/>IT'S DISCIPLINE.<BR/><BR/>When I spoke back to my parents, do you think they came up to me and tried to talk it out with me? Do you think they tried to "ground" me to my room?<BR/><BR/>Hell no, they put that hand to the back of my head. Do you realize that trying to talk things out with your kids actually increases the liability of them doing something misdemeaning in the future? <BR/>You have to understand that as a parent, YOU ARE THE LAW. Your kid talks back, but a belt to his ass. There is no room for discussion in your household, or with you, for that matter.<BR/>If these children begin to believe that they can reason their way out of your decisions, then you've just failed as a parent.<BR/><BR/>So, I was gonna laugh, but some of the comments were rather good.<BR/>Y'know what? I'm gonna laugh anyway.<BR/>BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Idiots.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com